i think it’s worth mentioning that learning to love yourself is a lifelong process. self-love is about building a strong, healthy relationship with yourself. just like any other loving relationship, you’ll feel the positive effects soon after you begin - but that’s just the starting line :)
I took this last year, but in retrospect, I think it’s my strongest piece from high school.
Working on this project really made me examine my own opinions, preconceptions and prejudices about “slutty” women and women who choose to cover all of their skin alike. I used to assume that all women who wore Hijabs were being oppressed, slut-shame, and look down on and judge any woman who didn’t express her sexuality in a way that I found appropriate.
I’d like to think I’m more open now.
Source: Flickr / roseaposey
So… have you ever heard the saying: “A happy customer tells one friend, an unhappy customer tells everybody”?
We’re noticing that that has an interesting effect on the information people find about, for instance, hormonal birth control methods — especially online. People who have a bad experience with a hormonal method are way more likely to talk about it than people who, say, go on the pill, take it for years, aren’t bothered by side effects, don’t get pregnant until they’re good and ready, and go about their lives. They’re not going to be like, “hmm, I wonder where I can go tell everyone how well birth control pills have worked out for me!”
Don’t get me wrong: this is not to say that some people don’t have fully legit bad experiences with hormonal birth control, even after sticking it out for three months (which is the amount of time it usually takes for any side effects you might have to go away). I’m actually one of them. But for instance, my sister has never had a hint of a problem being on the pill, and we’re biological sisters! Clearly, hormonal birth control affects different people in different ways.
The reason any of this actually matters is that: after sterilization or the IUD, hormonal birth control methods work the best at keeping you not-pregnant. And people who would really, really prefer to stay not-pregnant are best served by the most effective methods available to them.
Anyway. There’s nothing to really do about this – it’s not like people should shut up about their negative experiences or something. It’s more like… it’s just something to keep in mind when you read about individuals’ birth control experiences online, that the people who are happy are probably just not even thinking to mention it. And that it might be worth keeping a “don’t knock it ‘til you’ve tried it” attitude toward the more effective birth control methods, if the whole “not-pregnant” thing is important to you.
You could also feel free to like or re-blog this if you’re one of the people who’s been quietly happy with a hormonal birth control method – we know there are millions of you out there!
Sometimes being above average isn’t such a good thing. Wondering if you should get tested? The Check will help you figure out if your nether bits should be screened for chlamydia, gonorrhea, or HIV. Check it out.
Demystifying the menstrual cycle one infographic at a time.
via I Heart Guts
I just watched HBO’s “Gloria: In Her Own Words” and I cried. I knew nothing about her childhood and her relationship with her mother.
I think that being a feminist means that you see the world whole instead of half. It shouldn’t need a name, and one day it won’t. - Gloria Steinem
Feminism starts out being very simple. It starts out being the instinct of a child who says, ‘It’s not fair’ and ‘You are not the boss of me!’ It’s something in us who knows that, and it ends up being a world view…that ends up questioning the hierarchy”
“Being a feminist means you see the world whole instead of half
To protest a bill that would require women to undergo an ultrasound before having an abortion, Virginia State Sen. Janet Howell (D-Fairfax) on Monday attached an amendment that would require men to have a rectal exam and a cardiac stress test before obtaining a prescription for erectile dysfunction medication.
This is the most beautiful thing. Can we send her flowers?
Source: The Huffington Post
If we teach women that there are only certain ways they may acceptably behave, we should not be surprised when they behave in those ways.
And we should not be surprised when they behave these ways during attempted or completed rapes.
Women who are taught not to speak up too loudly or too forcefully or too adamantly or too demandingly are not going to shout “NO” at the top of their goddamn lungs just because some guy is getting uncomfortably close.
Women who are taught not to keep arguing are not going to keep saying “NO.”
Women who are taught that their needs and desires are not to be trusted, are fickle and wrong and are not to be interpreted by the woman herself, are not going to know how to argue with “but you liked kissing, I just thought…”
Women who are taught that physical confrontations make them look crazy will not start hitting, kicking, and screaming until it’s too late, if they do at all.
Women who are taught that a display of their emotional state will have them labeled hysterical and crazy (which is how their perception of events will be discounted) will not be willing to run from a room disheveled and screaming and crying.
Women who are taught that certain established boundaries are frowned upon as too rigid and unnecessary are going to find themselves in situations that move further faster before they realize that their first impression was right, and they are in a dangerous room with a dangerous person.
Women who are taught that refusing to flirt back results in an immediately hostile environment will continue to unwillingly and unhappily flirt with somebody who is invading their space and giving them creep alerts.
People wonder why women don’t “fight back,” but they don’t wonder about it when women back down in arguments, are interrupted, purposefully lower and modulate their voices to express less emotion, make obvious signals that they are uninterested in conversation or being in closer physical proximity and are ignored. They don’t wonder about all those daily social interactions in which women are quieter, ignored, or invisible, because those social interactions seem normal. They seem normal to women, and they seem normal to men, because we were all raised in the same cultural pond, drinking the same Kool-Aid.
And then, all of a sudden, when women are raped, all these natural and invisible social interactions become evidence that the woman wasn’t truly raped. Because she didn’t fight back, or yell loudly, or run, or kick, or punch. She let him into her room when it was obvious what he wanted. She flirted with him, she kissed him. She stopped saying no, after a while.
The scientific name for the external “little button” or “bulb” [of the clitoris] is glans. Not to be confused with glands, glans simply refers to a small circular mass. This little structure contains approximately 8,000 sensory nerve fibers; more than anywhere else in the human body and nearly twice the amount found on the head of a penis… The fact is, though, that most of the clitoris is subterranean, consisting of two corpora cavernosa (corpus cavernosum when referring to the structure as a whole), two crura (crus when referring to the structure as a whole), and the clitoral vestibules or bulbs.
The glans is connected to the body or shaft of the internal clitoris, which is made up of two corpora cavernosa. When erect, the corpora cavernosa encompass the vagina on either side, as if they were wrapping around it giving it a big hug!
The corpus cavernosum also extends further, bifurcating again to form the two crura. These two legs extend up to 9cm, pointing toward the thighs when at rest, and stretching back toward the spine when erect.
If science weren’t so often a hostile field for women, I’m sure this stuff would have been discovered ages ago.
I love this drawing.
H&M puts real model heads on fake bodies. via Jezebel:
The bodies of most of the models H&M features on its website are computer-generated and “completely virtual,” the company has admitted. H&M designs a body that can better display clothes made for humans than humans can, then digitally pastes on the heads of real women in post-production. For now — in the future, even models’ faces won’t be considered perfect enough for online fast fashion, and we’ll buy all of our clothing from cyborgs. (This news sort of explains this.) But man, isn’t looking at the four identical bodies with different heads so uncanny? Duly noted that H&M made one of the fake bodies black. You can’t say that the fictional, Photoshopped, mismatched-head future of catalog modeling isn’t racially diverse.
What do you mean people have body issues? WHY WOULD THAT EVER HAPPEN?
I never reblog shit like this, but seriously, this is bizarre-o and should stop this instant.
This is pretty ridiculous.
Even the bodies of professional models are too imperfect to properly advertise clothing with. Even with photoshop. The only solution was to invent an entirely virtual body that no human being actually has.
Let that sink in for a minute.
fuck this. this is why we need feminism more than ever, i am self aware and aware of things like this and i still find it incredibly hard to accept my flaws, how is a young girl supposed to feel when this is all she’s ever been shown and told?
I think being a feminist means you see the world whole instead of half. It shouldn’t need a name - and some day it won’t.
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